The only thing you MUST do is just be a friend and have a good conversation and talk with her.
Think about some things that you can talk about. While you should say what comes naturally, the emotions and feelings can make it harder to think of everything on the spot.
So you should say what you would naturally say. But you can go over in your own mind ahead of time some of things that you think would be interesting to talk about or ask her about.
If you know she has some interests, maybe look on the net for latest news or information about her interests.
So be ready to have a good, friendly conversation.
As far as pulling out her chair, nothing like that is required or even expected.
It would be a good thing to do, if you naturally feel like doing it. She will probably be very charmed and pleased.
But if you are akward and uncomfortable, because it is not really ';you,'; then it might be better not to. You should be as genuine as possible.
Women love to be treated as special and valued. Any gesture you give her that tells her you are watching out for her, caring for her, or simply just noticing that she is feminine, something that just brings to life the difference between men and women and values her as a female, will charm her and help win her heart.
Along those lines, do not be shy as long as it feels genuine and real, as something natural for you. If you feel like putting her hand on her back to gently, tenderly point her toward the table or hold out your hand, or gently put the back of your hand tenderly on her cheek or holding her hand, go ahead and do it. But pay attention to what really feels genuine from your heart, NOT according to any rules or expectations that you think you HAVE to follow.
If you do something out of a sense of obligation, it won't feel genuine to her. If it really feels right to you, she will feel your genuineness.
Remember that a woman wants to feel your PERSONALITY.... who you are as a person, as a man.
You can talk about almost anything (socially acceptable) if you let your personality and feelings show through. If you are excited about something, she will enjoy hearing you talk about it.
But if you talk about the most interesting thing in the world, without your personality in it, it will be dull. She is NOT looking to learn information from you. She wants to feel YOU as a person, not receive data.
Understand that she may be shy at first. DO NOT worry about how she is acting early in the date. She may need to warm up. She may feel shy or not know what to say. Don't worry. ASSUME that you are doing well. Just keep talking about something fun, asking her about herself, etc. EXPECT that she needs time to warm up and relax.
Understand that (a) there is a time delay between the time you say or do something good and how she warms up. It takes time
(b) Little things are cumulative. If you tell 10 jokes that are just okay, they add up. She will feel happy. So don't stop. Just keep making her feel happy and positive.
Compliment her. Find something specific that you REALLY believe, sincerely, and mention it. It is always good to follow up a compliment with a question: ';I love your hair that way. Does it take a long time to do that?'; ';That's a nice dress. I'll bet you had to look a long time for it, right?'
As long as your compliments do not come across as groveling, you should use lots of them. There is no maximum, really. The problem comes when guys use compliments a form of begging. But she really wants to feel your approval as a guy. She will love being complimented. Just do it as if you are a strong, confident guy showing her approval. Never think that she is better than you. You are saying ';You're great, and so am I.'; Never let it come across as ';You're so fabulous, I don't deseve to be here.';
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Be positive!
Take time to think and do then the thing that you feel good with, lets wish for the best!
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