First date jitters - tips from fe/males!?

believe me, i'm boy crazy, going into junior year, so when a cute previor senior at my high school -- to be freshman in college -- asked me on a date to the movies, it was like a gift sent from _God_.





until i realized this was the first date (where both people involved literally called it a date) that i've ever been on -- i blame it on all the douchebag guys that i've had flings with/they never made it official.





i don't even know where my question starts. we're going to the movies (he's sneaking me into Funny People haha), but meeting up at barnes %26amp; nobles 40 minutes before hand to get refreshments and get to know each other.





ahhhh okay; what questions do you ask? how should you act physically? ice breakers? -- i literally haven't had a conversation with him in person, so naturally my worst fear is he overestimated how intriguing i am. any advice from people good in this field?





sorry this is long, i'm freaking out.First date jitters - tips from fe/males!?
It's okay to be nervous.





When my boyfriend and I started dating, I was a nervous wreck around him.





He seen it and tried to comfort me.





Ask things about his life. For instance, you say he is going to college? ask him how he feels about college, if he hasn't been yet what is he looking forward to in college, and if he is going now- how is college going for him.





The more you talk to him, the more you find things about him. then question on those.





Also, try to be funny. Because most guys like a humor in girls, and it will also bring a lot of the tension away and let you relax some.





You should try to act yourself, laid back, and natural. But it's okay to let him see that you are nervous about the date, if he is anything like my boyfriend for 9 months he will try to help you, and calm you down to were you aren't as nervous.





The first date jitters ALWAYS happens. It's something natural. Over time you will over come it as you become more comfortable with this person.First date jitters - tips from fe/males!?
Don't freak out cuz all your going to do is make yourself nervous and he will definitely pick up on that. So try and stay calm and make small talk. Ask questions and try to get to know him better. Ask him about school work movies anything really to keep the conversation going im sure he'll be doing the same he's probably just as nervous as you.
Be yourself. Act like you would with your friends. Make conversation of ur surroundings. If ure meeting at a book store ask if he reads and if he says no have a laugh about it. Ask him what kind of things does he like to do, ask about his family, ask about his childhood, ask about him going to college. One tip i have is when you ask these questions tell stories about ur life that is similar to the question.
Okay from your picture you look cute, no homo :) anyways, just be chill and very flirty go to the sex section of the booked and make fun of the book titles. MAKE HIM LAUGH! Ask him personal questions jokingly. Also act natural, like eat the pop corn don't be like ohhh I cant eat in front of him, he'll think your weird. Good luck :)
first and foremost, have fun with him :) remember that he is a human, just like you and he is probably just as nervous as you are.





if conversation is lacking, you can always ask about school, what he wants to do, his favorite bands, movies, books he's read...genuinely get to know him
hmm i would say before you meet up, have a bunch of topics to talk about just in case things get quiet. on the date, be outgoing and definately don't be shy cause then he'll get bored. during the movie you could hold his hand, or maybe even kiss if it's not too far for you on the first date. most of all though, be yourself (: it's easiest!
your funny! just by the way your talking makes it seem like you would be easy to get along with in person! you don't have anything to worry about!





fist talk about what you guys have in common. school. family. even though it sounds kind of stupid, get to know the obvious first, then get into deeper things.





Just keep in mind that there is ALWAYS something to say. If you overanalyze things, it could be disastrous! Just be yourself and have fun.





If you think about it, being nervous won't help. you have NOTHING to lose!
If he asked you out and doesn't know you, this means he is physically attracted to you. Dress nice... BUT not too revealing... Ask him what provoked him to ask you out, his schoo major, things like that. But it is the first date so be very carefulabout the personal stuf unless he brings it up first!





HAVE FUN!
The best thing that you can do is to stay calm, cool, and relaxed. Don't try to be more than what you are....just be yourself. You cannot base past flings on every guy that you meet, because it will be unfair to the both of you. Listen to what he has to say, in attempt to find out more about him, and then just keep it real.
before the date try to think of a list of questions or conversation starter just in case you get stuck in an awkward silence then you at least have something to fill the slot (so to speak) good luck and im sure it will go fine.
just try to get to know him...don't talk about your ex...talk about what you like what u don't like...things like that...be calm and flirt...smile sweetly and giggle when he says something that was suppose to be funny, even if it wasn't. lol good luck:)
im not a chick but i can help.


dont overdo it.


i like it when a girl acts herself around me.


dont be afraid to disagree with him.


guys like a girl who believes in her opinions
Just be yourself, don't try to be someone your not its not attractive to a guy. If he doesn't like you for who you are then find someone who will. Good luck on the date :D
Be natural. Don't try to over impress him.


Be lady like with your words.


He is not a gift from God, so don't let him act like he is.
yeah it can be scary...dont trip out!!! First of all i would just say to be yourself and if he doesnt like it...screw him! I would try to hold his hand....touch him as much as possible...like on his arm or whatever. Laugh...it makes you seem more outgoing!
BE YOURSELF!


when he jokes around like laugh and touch his arm or leg, which ever way you are sitting.


joke around with him!


showw off your smile!
laugh alot but dont overdo it keep the conversation flowing....thnk of stuff to talk about also touch his arm and stuff
just be yourself.things to talk about comes up naturally just ask stuff you wanna know but not too noisy.
just ask him about his interests and keep the convo going. and most of all, be yourself
just be yourself! give him an occasional hug and rest on his shoulder to let him no that you think he's special :)
hey.


be yourself.


if he likes you, great.


and if he doesnt, its not worth acting to get him to like you.
u better smile at him, that's all
Just play it cool of course be you. Have fun because that's what you're supposed to do on a date. Do what comes naturally to you it's not like you are supposed to plan the whole date and know exactly what to say and how to act. no one can tell you that stuff. Don't look at this date as the first date ever and the last one at the same time. Know who you are and be you. If you are really in a dead moment and you fell like there is nothing to talk about talk about school, he's going to college so there's plenty to talk about there. Hell if you really have nothing to talk about it as dumb as it sounds there's always the weather to talk about. Just relax it's no big deal think of this not as a date but as hanging out with a friend, a girlfriend except you can't talk about boys. Just have fun and be you and it will show and either he will like you or he wont.
Stop over thinking it for starters.


Go into this date with the idea of enjoying this guy and nothing more.


Treat him as a person you would like to make a friend, not a boyfriend, not a lover, not a future husband,...just a friend. Isn't that where it is supposed to begin?





Yes it's natural to be a bit nervous, but when you feel yourself becoming just take a deep breath and calm your nerves and smile and remind yourself this is just a date.





You know what I hate about dates? People are always on their best behavior. I prefer to see the real person as I believe most would, so be yourself. There is no knowing where the conversation will go, no knowing what kind of personality he is so not easy to steer you in the conversation department (ice breakers).





Gad don't talk about yourself. Let him ask you questions about yourself. That is such a turn off, someone that wants to talk to much about themselves. If that's the case the person talking a great deal about themselves should date themselves. (Not saying that's is what you'd do, but what an overly nervous person might do.





Relax and enjoy!
Don't freak out! You have to approach the situation smooth %26amp; cooled so it doesn't look like you've been stresing over this! Trust me, everyone stresses over first dates but you don't know what to expect til it happens. Just feel the moment. If you plan what to do and say you could make things akward for your date and yourself, so just do what yu think is right in the moment. If he ends up being a jerk you can give gestures that show your staying distance from him. Like, at the movies you could sit at the far end of your seat tilting away from him, and he'll get the hint. If, at the end of the date you really like the guy you could give him a kiss, but not much more than that because it is a first date. BUT, don't PLAN on kissing him just incase it's not the right moment. All you can do is look your best, and you'll feel your best, and the rest will just happen.


Good luck! :)
here are some cardinal rules about guys, laugh at his jokes, but don't be fake, be who you are, meaning, don't offer to get him stuff if you don't want to be treated like a slave. Have good eye contact when talking to him, if he is constantly breaking eye contact he is either really nervous, or just not a trustworthy guy. talk about him first, then talk about your self. be interested, and listen to what he is saying, although i probably don't need to tell you how to listen because you are a girl. ask him what college life is like, or what sports he likes to play, if you know something about what his sports are, then show off that knowledge, i don't know about other guys, but i like to have a girl that i can watch the game with. the best thing about this is you haven't talked in person, so bring something up about his voice or some other aspect about him, guys like to be complimented.





Hope this helped, Good luck on your date!